Lover

I’m inspired by a play I saw tonight. Set in 1963, The Magic Bullet Theory was a fun who-shot-JFK ride rich with witty dialogue. One topic that came up several times was blowjobs. One man-character says “women were put on this earth for 2 reasons: to suck our dicks and take our balls.” Now, contextually, that [...]

My voice was on the radio this week on “The Dating Advice Girl Show” with Erin Tillman for the sex episode. I  had a great time sharing my top tips for hookups and new relationships. At one point, Erin posed an interesting question: “How many erogenous zones are there?” Well,  I knew the answer right [...]

I don’t mean to get all Sarah Jessica Parker here, but as mentioned on my podcast I’m freshly exploring the single world. Never would I have imagined how DIFFERENT the single girl’s sex life can be from that of a close companionship. It’s a wholly separate skill set! The juxtaposition is startling. Sex in a relationship was [...]

I have to share this. It’s technically a documentary, but it feels more like 8 minutes of tender, sexy truth. The soundtrack is rad, the painter, Alberto Mielgo, is so very pure in his joy of women and to see Belladonna intimately expressing what goes through her mind before having sex is sublime. A must [...]

Last night I taught a class on female pleasure and without planning to, I ended up sharing with the crowd of 30 or so folks something I’ve been working on the last few weeks. It’s a sex technique/model/concept to use in one’s pleasure of oneself and others. And it goes like this: Use these 7 [...]

So, as I said on last week’s episode of my podcast, I’m single now. And that means the possibility of jumping into bed or hottub with someone I might like a whole lot, but don’t know how to please them. This leads to this Raar! Raar! Raar! feeling that, while fun, also is a little [...]

Hi, Sex Nerds. Want your mind blown? Below is the video my guest, Lara Catone mentioned after I asked her about orgasm during childbirth. I don’t know if this is possible for every female body, but I do appreciate that this broadens the public conscious on birthing experiences from the straight up pain paradigm. I [...]

This evening I received an email from a right-handed listener who goes at it with their left: “I would think that people would use their dominant hand, but I’m right handed and I always use my left hand to masturbate.  It makes me wonder if I’m unusual in that regard or if being right or [...]

When something is amiss in one’s sex life, often we want to fix the issue quickly and MOVE ON! As a sex educator and pleasure coach, I encourage others to take the time and move slow, but do I do that myself? No. Not usually. I am simultaneously busy and lazy. Which means I don’t [...]

I love well-written sex books so much it hurts! Kinda like when I hold back the urge to hug a celebrity during a little butt sex coaching. It’s a beautiful agony. Inside my head, I hear the desperate battle cry: “Must hug! Must HUG!” So, I have 3 new books to add to my library [...]

I was at a barbecue this past weekend, and the movie “Hall Pass” came up. I seemed to be the only one who hadn’t seen it, so I asked if I had the plot right: “Group of married men complain about monogamy. Wives give them a week pass to sleep with others. Comedic comedy ensues.” [...]

Recently, Scientific American published a story on sex toy safety, written by Regina Nuzzo. It confirmed my sneaking suspicions. The number of people losing objects in their asses is on the rise. I can understand why. With American sexuality coming out of the dark ages and into a kind of exploratory rennaissance, more and more [...]